Tuesday, October 20, 2009

Identifying Societal Influences on Self

Are we doing all we can to ensure our children are independent, I mean truly independent in a world that thrives on the ideology that a power hierarchy is acceptable?

Beginning in childhood we are bombarded with systems set up to teach us to ignore our own power and follow do as others say. As children, our parents pass on to us their understanding of life and religion. This begins at birth continues on through early developmental years and then the school system reaches for their piece of the child. As we graduate from school, large business decide if we are acceptable to work for them based on whether or not we are a good risk in our ability to make money for them. Companies say they want someone who can work independent, but the amount of independence stretches only as far as they allow within their policies.

Parental Influence on our True Self

Our learning or programming which ever you prefer, starts when we are quite young, in an attempt to ensure that we, including our children "go with the flow" rather than use our own feelings and sense of personal responsibility to live our lives. From the time we are small children we are told what to do, how to do it, and in many cases, if we do not do as suggested or told, we are punished in some way, whether it be time out, grounding and sadly in some cases, through spankings. As parents we have an extremely important role to play in our children's lives. Teaching them to make their own decisions and learn from the consequences of their choices is an invaluable tool in ensuring their ability to use and trust their feelings within. Having said that, we all know there are possibly dangerous situations where children need to be removed from to keep them safe. Following a situation like that is a time for communication in speaking with the child about the situation they were removed from, in an age appropriate manner. As parents we need to be in touch with our own true feelings and emotions ensuring we are not transferring ours onto our children. Teaching fear to a child rather than finding the power they have within is a dangerous precedent. To fear those in authority or on top of the hierarchy is the beginning of the "go with the flow" syndrome and in fact promoting the idea of it being acceptable for others to have the power over us to control us and our true feelings are not worth anything.

Judgment of our children is another trap we can fall into. We need to allow our children to be who they truly are and not require them to be who we want them to be. Judgment of self and others creates and further promotes the whole hierarchal structure that is creating the present adversity in the world.

School System Influence on our True Self

As we grow, and enter in the school system, the formal societal programming begins. Our children are introduced to yet another hierarchal system. They are graded as being A, B, C, D or F/R students. In the province I am living in, anything below a B is unacceptable and you are a student who, by this time has been labelled and requires increased attention more times then less from the parents as opposed to from the school.

Does the fact our children may not do well in school, or may not embrace school as we are told we must, really mean they are failures? Could it be that the children of today are living in a time of change and they are the catalysts for that change? In fact is it possible that our children are actually following and listening to their true self and not blindly accepting the status quo?

Much of the family time spent with children is hours spent doing homework. Our children have limited time during the school week to be children. The so called improved curriculum and testing is creating stress on our children and family time. The purpose of the new curriculum is to increase the knowledge of our children so they are able to grow smarter and be prepared for the business world ahead. When, in fact, to be productive, happy adults, children must have the opportunity to be children, to learn from their surroundings and experiences. We all have common sense, and its in childhood that we are able to get in touch with that common sense. The school system just by its nature of its teaching methods, knowledge taught and "rules" is hindering our children from being able to tap into their own common sense.

Our school system is focused solely on the business world, not to mention funded by the government who many times seems to be in the back pocket of the business world. . Business' focus is on the material, the more profits you make the better you are the more powerful you are. That attitude has built within people a feeling of failure if you are not materialistically in a preferred way. The hierarchal nature of business and government, we have created a society of few people with material wealth and many that are the working poor. Those that are the working poor don't get those material things that the wealthier get; in fact the hierarchy would come crashing down if they did. Those that are not wealthy are kept in a position by those with wealth of having the challenge of meeting their most basic needs. When you are required to put your energy into meeting your most basic of needs, there is little energy left to challenge and fight to find your true self and voice.

Religions affect on our True Self

We all have a basic truth within us that we feel drawn to find. In many cases religion helps to fulfill that need. It is the choice of us all what we choose to belief. One of the concerns I have with religion is once again the control and power religious institutions have over us. Various religions have various sacraments and rites that people are required to buy into to be fully accepted into the religion. For those that for whatever reason choose not to follow through with the sacraments/rites/rituals, there is a fear placed in us that GOD will judge us and our place in heaven is not guaranteed. If we do anything that goes against what the religion sees as being acceptable behaviour, we have sinned and only the religion as God's messengers can help you with that.

In my research and personal soul searching for my own truth related to God and life, I have always been fascinated with the fact that we are told that God loves us, that it is not right for us to judge others, yet there is an acceptance that judgment is appropriate from God.

The acceptance that we deserve the pain we feel, or the treatment we receive because we think of it as a pay back for behaviour that God will judge is merely a fear of taking responsibility for our own behaviour. It's always easier to blame then to take responsibility.

This again has an affect on our children. We teach them at a young age what is acceptable to God if you want to go to heaven. Fear once again in placed in them for things that in many cases are normal childhood behaviours or thoughts. The fear leads to guilt feelings. We begin to feel that we are this terrible person that has made God unhappy in some way. All of this adds to our feelings of being unworthy, worthless and not good enough. Hence we don't think our thoughts or feelings are valuable and we must listen to someone else.

The way our children are being treated and brought up today has a lasting affect on us all but more importantly on them. Through various laws our children are forced to endure the programming of not to trust your own feelings, but feel what they are told to feel and do as they are told to do. I don't feel there are any children that are "stupid”, its more our system isn't open minded enough to think outside the box on how we can reach these children. Having said that, in a hierarchal system, there is no desire to do that, allowing children to learn in a way that best suits them has them in a position of comfort and less of controllable. For example, statistics in my province are showing that we have many more dropouts with this new and supposedly improved education system. The children are feeling like they are not smart enough and the frustration and pain of failure they feel at school overwhelms them leaving them feeling empty and lost. Ideals conditions to be controlled.

What affect does this hierarchical system have on you and me and our children as they grow?

As we "grow-up" and become responsible citizens, we are controlled by our surroundings. As well we are also being controlled by our emotions. In these times of spiritual awakening and changes, issues and emotions are being surfaced within people that they have trouble recognizing for what they are. Rather than recognizing them as issues/situations/emotions to be healed, one of three scenarios can occur. The first being, people hold on tight to the feeling that they are not good enough, all that they are feeling and involved in right now, is their own fault and deserve the affects they are feeling.

The second scenario is to place blame on everyone else for their situation and not take any responsibility for themselves. While the first two scenarios may seem to be the same, they are not.

This leads us to the third scenario. Those that experience the third scenario understand that all experiences we have happen for a reason, whether it is for personal and/or spiritual growth as a person, or lessons yet to be learned. Taking responsibility is very important in healing and personal/spiritual growth, but it is more important to understand why we do/did what we did, learn from our experiences and the most critical aspect of growth and healing is to forgive ourselves. If you allow yourself to be honest with yourself, you will see that whatever the situation you are in or experiencing you did the best you could have done in that situation with the knowledge and experiences you had at that time. Understanding and forgiving self, allowing unconditional love of self is very empowering.

Pure Intent



One of the most important things to know and be aware of is that INTENT is not just words, without the actions to back the words then ones words are empty and their intent is not pure.

It's easy for us to say we will do this, do that, live like this, live like that, but unless we actually follow those words with action, we are not living as our intent states but we are just following the status quo.

The various crazes related to the Law of Attraction use intent as an intricate part of their foundation, and while the intent in this case is important, I'm going to take some time to look at intent at a deeper level, where its power really lies.
The perspective I come from is one where the belief is that we are all born clean, whole and healthy from our first lifetime taking a soul. It is at this time we have what I refer to as “pure intent”. Our pure intent at this time of our existence is at its most powerful and is the greatest protection we can have in our life. Pure intent is defined as an acknowledgment and belief that we all have the right to be clean, whole and healthy with a deep respect for free will choice both our own and others and for each of our true pathways. Our pure intent also acknowledges that we all have our own truth, and that is to be respected providing it is not causing harm to another.

To relate this to our life today, the pure intent can be seen as our umbrella intent, to which all other choices, reactions, behaviours and actions that result from our embracing our free will choice will fall under the umbrella intent. As we make choices and develop our intent, those individual intents which are do not go against our pure intent, will fall under the umbrella intent. As a result of these choices being protected by the umbrella, there is little chance of them getting wet.
For those choices we make that go against in anyway our pure intent, they will fall outside the umbrella intent. This will result in those choices not having the protection that pure intent has to offer, and will get wet. The analogy of the umbrella is a simple way of showing that our lives will run smooth if we live our pure intent or if our choices go against our pure intent in some way, our lives can end up in some kind of turmoil, which in most cases, whether recognized as such or not, is our own inner turmoil.

In understanding the power of our pure intent we first must understand what our Pure Intent really means. We all have a true pathway, free will choice and a right to be clean, whole and healthy. These are the foundations of our Pure Intent and understanding and living within this intent is powerful and is your greatest protection.


In understanding our life, there are some important understandings required in relation to your true pathway.
• We are always on our true pathway, even in those times when there are the most challenges. Those challenges we experience are our time of learning, a time when we can learn to understand our self and others and bring inner peace into our lives. All paths we walk and follow all lead back to our true pathway.
• Our purpose is for learning and experiencing situations and issues that can help us to grow as a person through healing and understanding.
• Unconditional love of self is one of the greatest lessons we will progress to learn and is the one that will bring the most inner peace to each of us. It is a work in progress and requires a shifted perspective on how we see ourselves, how we see others. It leads to a greater understanding of ourselves and others and in a time when fighting and war is so prevalent, it is the key to peace on earth
• the unconditional love leads to another understanding, which is that growth and healing does not come from blaming either ones self of others , it comes from taking responsibility for oneself.


With key understandings in place related to true pathways, we can move onto free will choice. We all have free will choice, and choosing not make a decision or choice and/or allowing another to make our choices/decisions, is in itself you making a choice.

Respecting and embracing free will choice is not something that we can pick and choose to accept for ourselves or others but something to be embraced within ourselves for ourselves and for others. We may not always agree with the choices others around us make, but if it is something we expect for ourselves then we must give the same respect to others. In those situations where you may not agree with another persons choice, you have the choice yourself to walk away from a situation. Having said that there are underlying factors that don't always make that feasible, at which time your pure intent will help you to find your peace within the situation.

We as individuals need to be responsible for our choices, our reactions, our behaviours, our decisions. Each time we allow another to upset us, hurt us, make us sad, make us feel anything, it is our choice to feel as we do. It is us who are allowing another to make us feel those emotions. You will see more later in this chapter, where taking responsibility or blaming relates to our free will choice aspect of our pure intent.

By our nature, most humans are very compassionate and want to help others. Yet at the same time, we only want to help those that we feel are worthy of our help. In relation to free will choice its important to understand that with every choice decision behaviour etc there are consequences. Those consequences may be good or they may be not so good. Understanding that regardless of the consequence, this is an opportunity for learning and growth within ourselves. So for those that use their free will choice to make choices we don't agree with , its important that we understand that the one making the choice/decision/behaviour etc has an opportunity to learn something, and as mentioned above, it is part of their true pathway and not for us to hinder them in anyway by thinking we can make better choices for them. If we force our own choice on them, for their situation, then we are not only hindering their free will choice, but we are also potentially hindering them in learning an important lesson along their pathway.

Its also very important to understand that within our society, free will choice is not well respected and we are taught at a very young age to not create our own individual intent in life but to follow what is being told to us, act how we are told and expected to act, think how we are told to think. Recognizing the existence of this control on our free will choice is a step closer to self empowerment and living our pure intent.


The importance of this section refers also to our reasons for existing. Being open to new ideas and concepts is empowering in the sense that you are able to learn continuously about those things that can hinder us from being clean whole and healthy. In that way, it is our responsibility to embrace this right for ourselves and to learn all we can to make this happen for ourselves. While we may call upon God or angels to do this and that for us, they will only do what is within your awareness and knowledge, so they do not go against your free will choice.


Everything is energy, we are energy, this computer I use to type this information is energy, the floors we walk on, the roads we drive on, everything is energy. Just as our physical bodies can get dirty from day to day living, so too can our energy. While we have been taught from a young age that bathing or showers will clean our physical bodies, little about cleaning our energy has been known or shared with us. There are many things that can “dirty” up our energy daily. Just as, for example, sweat can give us an awareness of residue needing cleared from our bodies, awareness is key in cleaning our energy. Until we are aware of the exist of something, it doesn't exist.

We took our first soul as clean pure energies, but life itself as with our physical body can leave dirt or residue on us based on our experiences. From an energy perspective, our experiences, emotions, connections with others also leave a residue needing cleared to bring us back to our own pure energy. If you consider how long ones life is...and realize that we have many lifetimes we each have lived to date, the amount of build up of residue and various energies sticking to us, is significant.

What are the benefits of being clean?

Just as food, our environment, addictive substances, and everything else in our physical lives can have an affect on our health and feeling whole, so can the energies and residues that may be clinging to our energy. The various things that cling can have an affect on our mental, physical and spiritual state of well being and health. Without an awareness of this possibility, then those things that can actually affect our health and well being don't exist for people, which can lead them down paths of reaction to the symptoms they feel in their lives.

For example, if you have trouble quieting your mind, or your mind is constantly bombarding you with thoughts or messages, that can be a clue that there may be things clinging to your energy that are causing that overwhelming feeling in your mind.

From a physical perspective, we may feel others pain and without the awareness that is belongs to someone else we tend to automatically claim it as our own. Once we claim it as our own, then we continue to feel it and in turn it has an affect on our daily lives.

From the spiritual side of things, those things clinging to us can actually block truths we may have within from surfacing, in an attempt to manipulate your beliefs and your pure intent, which as mentioned earlier, can result in your intent being outside of your umbrella intent, leading to challenges in your life.
The examples shared are not inclusive and are simply given to open ones mind up to the possibility that maybe there is more to life then what has been shared with us or what we have learned.


From a 'whole' perspective, this refers to the acknowledgement that while as humans we are often giving and caring, we also need to be aware that in doing so we need to keep all of our pieces and parts with us.

I'm sure you have heard people say upon a loved ones passing, or the break up of a relationship, “that person took a piece of my heart with them”. While it may be just considered as words to describe the deep feeling of emptiness the person feels with the separation from the loved one, depending on the strength of the feeling put into that statement, they can actually send parts or pieces of themselves to cling to that other person. In doing so the person truly is feeling empty because of part of them was sent, leaving a vacant hole in their energy. In cases where you have sent a part or piece to another or vice versa someone else sending a part of piece to you, that actually is similar to a constant irritant to a wound. As long as those parts are missing, or others are clinging to you, it is a constant reminder of the connection which makes it difficult to heal that situation. If you think of a cut on your finger, you do all you can to clean it so it can heal, but if you bang it again or bend your finger a certain way then it starts to bleed again. Its the same idea when your parts/pieces are clinging to others, or theirs to you, that is like continuously banging or bending your finger so it is not able to heal. When not healed, just as when we have a sore finger, we may see situations differently, or make choices based on those feelings or ties we have through the parts/pieces clinging. Since these choices may be different to the choices we would make when whole, the potential is there for a hindrance to your free will choice and true pathway being unhindered.

What is important to be aware of in these cases, is that taking your parts back or sending others parts back to them, it is not a sign that they weren't important in your life or that you didn't love them, it actually is a sign of unconditional love for yourself and for others, to reclaim all your own parts to be able to walk your true pathway unhindered and allow the same for them.


As previously mentioned, there are things from our energy that can affect our health and how we feel. Once you walk through the steps of clearing those things not truly you, reclaiming those parts/pieces of yourself from others, then you can focus on your own personal things that can have an affect on your health. The main contributor to our health challenges is our emotions. Every ache, pain, illness, and disease all have an emotional root. Of course once something is in the physical body, its not a one time situation that created it, its a culmination of numerous situations where the same intense emotions have been felt and not healed or released. In a sense they are pushed down leaving a weakness in various areas of your body depending on the emotion. Once the weakness is there, its much more difficult for your own body to heal itself because it can't get past the wall created by the emotional energy in all forms.
A good example of this may be two people walking together, one person goes over on their ankle and breaks it while the second person goes over at the exact same point the exact same way as the first person, but doesn't break their ankle and may have no discomfort at all. How is it that the second person didn't break their ankle? This goes back to the emotional root aspect. The emotional root for ankle problems is inflexibility. The person who broke their ankle, if they were to look at what is happening in their life, and were honest with them, they would notice that there are situations in which they are being inflexible, which then creates the emotional energy that settles in that part of their body. When they went over on their ankle, and if the emotional energy settled there is strong, then that little side step was enough to break their ankle. The second person who didn't hurt themselves, doesn't have the same weakness , meaning the issue of inflexibility is a non issue for them, or they are at the least less inflexible then the first person.
As with all stated and talked about previously, we have a responsibility to ourselves to be open and learn and understand all we can about ourselves in order for us to embrace our pure intent for ourselves and develop the same for others. In taking responsibility, its also important to understand that to embrace our pure intent, it also means that we learn to do for ourselves rather then having others do for us. Having said that no man is an island and we are all here to assist each other, but ultimately no one can do or say to you anything that you don't know or know differently in your own right. When we allow others to do for us, we are surrendering our power to them and can be influenced and/or hindered by them through their own perceptions and preconceptions and illusions.


This may be one of the toughest questions you will ask yourself initially. We all have a tendency to think we are doing what is right and have pure intent in our actions, but the list below, while not fully comprehensive, can give you a bit of insight into whether or not you are living your pure intent or if you are deceiving yourself into thinking you are living it.
Questions to consider in helping to identify pure intent within yourself through your actions, behaviours and responses to situations.....

•Do you inspire and lift everyone to their highest potential with unconditional love and acceptance?

•Have you learned to not judge people and instead pray for their health and happiness?

•Do you understand that all happens for a reason, and any path you're on comes to a fork in the road, its not a dead end, but a new opportunity to embrace?

•Are you accepting of others, even though they may not be as you feel they should be or making choices you feel are acceptable?

•Do you have trust and faith, in place of fear, worry, frustration etc in your life?

•Do you trust that you have all you need within yourself to walk your true pathway and learn your chosen lessons?

•Do you embrace all yours and others successes, no matter how small they may seem at the time?

•Do you understand that you are a piece of a greater puzzle, whose piece is as important as all others and your piece is an intricate part of the puzzle?

•Do you respect and have an acceptance of others beliefs and truths even if they are not the same as your own?

•Do you understand the importance and difference between empowering someone and doing for them?

•Do you acknowledge that an understanding of self and others is contributes to inner peace?

•Can you understand that there is a fine line between taking responsibility for self and blaming oneself or others for situations?

•Do you embrace the idea that you have the right to live happily and it is your responsibility and within your power to create that happiness for yourself?

•Are you able to reflect on yourself in a way that is positive and from a learning perspective as opposed to one that is critical, creating a negative feeling towards yourself?

If you find yourself responding “no” to any of the above questions, rather than berating yourself up over it, take all as a clue of areas within yourself to focus on and find the triggers of what is causing you to react with those intents outside the umbrella intent. As I mentioned earlier this pure intent is within us all, but with life being life, and the experiences we have all lived, we can have triggers that hinder us from being able to live our pure intent. Once you are able to find those triggers and heal them, then you are able to continue your journey of reaching your pure intent.