Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Basking in a Wishing Well

A Wishing Well as defined by dictionary.com is :

~ a well or pool of water supposed to grant the wish of one who tosses a coin into it.~

By definition alone, we can see the difference of the Wishing Well from the Emotional Gravity Wells (EMG). You will notice the affect on the Elements in choosing a Wishing Well over an EMG is significant and has an beneficial shift within a Wishing Well.

As we commit to ourselves to work towards pure intent and unconditional love of self, basking in a Wishing Well is a natural progression for us. We are able to see and embrace the opportunities for learning that each and every situation in our lives presents to us. In doing so we are also able to empower ourselves through forgiveness, understanding (of both ourselves and others) leading to unconditional love of self.

We all act, react, and behave as a result of our previous experiences and learning. To step back from any given situation, and enlarge your perspective of it, we allow ourselves to to enjoy the peace and calm of the Wishing Well. When in this space, we are also able to, through our pure intent throw our coins into the Wishing Well, as defined in the above definition

At the heart of all, everyone wants the same outcome, has the same objective. We all want peace within and peace on earth. To get there, we need to be who we want others to be. If we can put competition and individual truths aside, and focus on the objective, then we will be much more successful in creating a unity through unconditional love and peace that no one or nothing can conquer.

To wish another success in their mutual objective, is to give power to the intent. Our thought intent is our power , and it's not hard to imagine the power behind us all embracing pure intent, unconditional love of self and a strong focus on our mutual objective.

To focus on mutual truth leads to a divide and conquer scenario which relinquishes the power of the intent behind our thought. We may not all believe the same individual truths, and providing we are not harming others through our truths, we all have the right to believe what we choose. A focus on a mutual objective (I.E. love, peace, freedom to be who we are, mutual respect) allows for a unified engine of thought intent power.

Not only does choosing and acting within a Wishing Well have a positive affect mentally and emotionally on you, but physically you are more relaxed, more content and have more energy and vigor. Naturally, the benefits of feeling at peace and relaxed, is the attraction of the same to your energy. No longer are you attracted to drama or those who feed from it.

If you find you are in a situation that looks or feels familiar to an EMG (discussed in previous note) , see below an exercise you can use to ease the effects of the emotions and energies on you, so you are able to focus on looking within to identify and clear your triggers, to be able to bask yourself in a Wishing Well instead.

~Sit in your sun (representative of your own core energies)

~Ask that the Forgiveness Heart© do all appropriate in attracting and transmuting all energies you are holding onto that forgiveness is needed for. This includes forgiveness of self as well as others. The Forgiveness Heart will transmute all to unconditional love and forgiveness.

~ For those things you can't control, begin sending the energy of those things you can't control to the Freedom Star© (as seen in previous note)

~ Now ask that all energies that are part of the EMG be transmuted to those of a Wishing Well, and feel the power of your own core energies, helping to lighten your load.

~ If you are deep into an EMG, this exercise is recommended to be used regularly as a way of helping you to clear yourself from it.

~ When you are finished the exercise, call on your coreself, mitochondria and symbionts to rebalance your energy appropriately.

We all have one goal, we all have the power, it's just a matter of recognizing it and embracing as individuals, strengthening the whole.


© The WISE Approach 2009

Monday, February 15, 2010

~Inner peace, unconditional love and pure intent is our power foundation for change~

In these exciting yet challenging times of change within the world, as individuals, what control do we have?

It's very easy to get overwhelmed by the magnitude of the upheavals happening or needing to happen. As an individual, it's difficult to see the power we have not only within ourselves but as a collective. Each of us has a piece of the puzzle and each is an important piece. All are needed to accomplish our shared objective of peace on earth.

Peace on earth begins with peace within. While it's true that we can't all sit behind our computers and have the material changes manifest automatically, it's also true that if we aren't feeling our own inner peace , and taking that to the outside world, then we won't be able to create the shift in consciousness and changes that are needed.

If you are passionate about creating change, then that passion comes from within not from our emotions. While we may be able to fuel our passion with our emotions, for lasting and profound change, we need to be in control of our emotions. We need to have our own inner peace.

Protests/ can be a wonderful way to share your perspective with the world and bring about change. In such cases, while its our emotions (i.e. anger, frustration, fear),that feed our drive.. we need to be aware of the power of our emotions and learn to use them to meet our objective. If we don't have control of those emotions, then we are easily triggered in situations that can and will result in conflict. Everyone has the right to believe what they do, without harm coming to them or others. We can't force anyone to believe or think as we do, it's only within our control to share our perspective in the hope that we are planting seeds for them to nourish and grow.

By allowing ourselves to be controlled by our emotions and triggered at the first sign of someone not buying into what we are selling, we are no longer working from a place of love and peace. This can result in alienation from those who truly come from that place. In the long term, any change created through a lack of inner peace is simply the same old same old, with the exception of new faces at the helm.

If it is our passion to take a stand, and to embrace the job of sharing the knowledge, information and peace we hold, then we have a responsibility not only to ourselves but to others to do so coming from a place of inner peace and love, which is the very thing we are hoping to achieve.

For those things we can't control, here is a wonderful exercise to help us surrender the energy of those things that actually create blocks to our moving forward...

~visualize yourself sitting in your sun (representing your core energies) and you are sending the energy of all you can't control to the Freedom Star* outside your personal sheilds...and have your coreself filling in all areas vacated with faith, trust and unconditional love...rebalance your energy appropriately ~


© The WISE Approach 2009

Emotional Gravity Wells

A gravity well is the pull of gravity that a large body in space exerts. The larger the body (the more mass) the more of a gravity well it has.

For our purposes, we will reform that definition into one that helps us to understand the effect of an Emotional Gravity Wells© (EGW) on us, our lives and those around us.

We all have and feel emotions, that is one of the wonderful things about being human, however along with the good comes the more challenging ones that we can, without an understanding, get overwhelmed with.

An EMG can be likened to a reverse whirlpool of swirling emotions. We can be pulled into our own EGW that we share with others at any time, even daily, depending on who we interact with at any given time.

For a reverse whirlpool to exist, the conditions must be such, within the water, that there is a blockage in some way of moving forward. For our purpose of understanding an EGW, its our emotions that create the blockages to the smooth flow of the water. The energy of the emotions like hurt, pain, anger, frustration etc set the stage or the origins of the gravity well. The emotions of the other party(s) involved in the creation of the EGW act as a mirror for us, and without an understanding of your part and for others within them, you both have the potential to be sucked in. The more situations experienced and the strength of the emotions involved, will influence the size of the gravity well. In the particular example of it being between only two people, the minute one of the parties gets a 3rd, 4th, 5th etc person involved, then your gravity well will grow, feeding off the emotions of the parties involved.

You can recognize an Emotional Gravity Well© based on peoples response to the emotions identified above. If they react in defense, or lash out in anger to the other person, and the other person responds the same way, then you have your beginnings of a gravity well. With each reaction/response mentioned, you are feeding the gravity well energy, either to burn bridges or to create new bonds within and potential without as well.

What are the affects of being in or pulled into a gravity well?

Being pulled into a newly created gravity well is definitely much easier to free yourself of, with the right understanding of the situation, where as those created over lifetimes that surface in this lifetime are a little more challenging, yet very possible. When you are in a gravity well, you feel this need to respond to every comment made to or about you that is more negative based. There comes a feeling of being attacked unfairly (which could very well be true), but along with that feeling, you also create your own emotions within yourself that have an affect on how you see every situation in your life. These emotions also have an affect on the choices you make daily. You will spend a lot of your time focusing on this situation, which can be a distraction from what is important in your life. You may also find that it's your right or your chosen job to stand up for someone else if you are drawn into one.

When you find yourself defending who you are, take a step back and consider why you feel the need to do so. Why wouldn't you automatically think that they would know simply appreciate you from your past actions or from knowing you. We really have no one else to impress with ourselves and leading by example (i.e. being who we want others to be) is something we can all do and it is noticed by people. If you don't feel people know you for who you are, or that people who don't know you, may feel something bad about you, as a result of others opinions, then we need to step back and find out, from within, why this and their opinions matters so much to us.

If you have been in an ongoing battle with someone, have you noticed that after some time, you forget what the original issue was. If we don't work to pull ourselves out of a gravity well then we just get sucked in deeper and deeper. At this point, if you think about the idea of a gravity well being funnel shaped, the deeper you go the less light you are able to see. It's when you are getting deeper and deeper ,that the original issue is lost to us, all we know then is the emotions that are drawing us deeper and deeper into it. As with being unteathered from the foundations of existence, it's difficult to create a foundation of self of unconditional love of self and pure intent.

To prevent the formation of a gravity well we need to have an understanding of self and why we and others respond and react as we do. The creation of a gravity well is not about blame but it is about our own individual responsibility to ourselves to learn about ourselves and work towards unconditional love of self. When we realize that a gravity well is just an indicator that we have some internal work to do on ourselves, we can step back and put the focus where it needs to be rather then powering the gravity well. As you are able to understand your responses and feelings, you are then able to forgive the other person and walk away from the gravity well. Without you feeding it, the gravity well will dissipate, as do whirlpools when the blocks are cleared from the water, allowing a smooth flow.

Being caught in an EGW, has not only a mental and emotional affect, but it also can have a physical manifestation. You will find you are stressed, tired and that nothing seems to go the way you expect or think it should go in many parts of your life.

How can you get out of a gravity well?

1. The main way as mentioned above is to gain an understanding of self and others, which comes from healing and personal growth.

2. Ensuring your intent is pure, as noted in a previous note, is a must, as part of the understanding needed to steer clear of falling into or creating gravity wells.

3. Take a step back and look at the situation, and then look within to see where the triggers are that have pulled you into the gravity well. This isn't about self blame, this is about taking responsibility for your health, growth and well being.

4. Understand that you have no control over how others react, respond, think, believe etc. You only have control over how you react, respond, think, believe. Once you are able to appreciate and understand that, and release the energy created, by the emotions, you feel, with that lack of control, then you are able to clear away blocks to miraculous outcomes for the situation.

5. We must see the situation through loving eyes, i.e. loving of ourselves and of others.

6. Our ultimate goal is to shift the energies of an Emotional Gravity Well into that of a Wishing Well where we have inner peace, unconditional love, faith and trust and wish that for all others.

To be free and clear of gravity wells, it takes a conscious effort and commitment to ourselves for personal growth, pure intent and understanding. Only then, when we have that peace within will there be peace on earth.

With thanks to the below website for their simplified scientific definition of a gravity well.


© The WISE Approach 2013

Freedom Star

This exercise is an opportunity for you to free yourself of the burden of those situations, people's responses, reactions, behaviours etc that are beyond your control. We can only control our own actions/reactions, and behaviours, yet, without awareness of an alternative, we hold onto expectations, frustration, anger, hurt, worry and fear..

This is a powerful meditiation to clear those emotional energy and blocks, allowing you to contribute to a resolution not only to the situation at hand but is also beneficial to our own health and wellbeing. This exercise is also an important one for leading you out of a gravity well and into a wishing well.

~visualize yourself sitting in your sun (representing your core energies) ..feel how warm and inviting it is.

~ now look beyond your personal shields and see the Freedom Star©

~ see the energy of those things you are not able to control flowing to the Freedom Star©

~feel your coreself filling in all areas vacated with faith, trust and unconditional love

Continue the release on a regular basis to keep clearing potential blocks to miracles manifesting

When you have completed the meditation, call on your coreself, mitochondria and symbionts to rebalance your energy appropriately


© The WISE Approach 2009